Do you know what is blocking your success or happiness in life?
Ultimately nothing will satisfy you if you don't already feel good about yourself on the inside. You see we have 3 selves. Our negative self, our pretend self and our authentic self. When all your energy is going into maintaining the illusion of your projected self and hiding the image of your feared self from the world, the still, small voice of the authentic self—who you really are—can barely be heard.
You see, at our core is our authentic self—the reality of who and what we really are. But piled on top of the real us—is a layer of shame, fear, and guilt about the person we're afraid we are, or better known as our negative self-image. So in order to make sure people still like us, approve of us, and give us love and money, we pile yet another layer on top of our feared self—the person we pretend to be.
As you begin to excavate your real self out from under who you're afraid you are and who you pretend to be (excavate the diamond out from under the horse manure covered in nail polish), you get to shift positions from passenger to driver. And when your real self is driving the bus, you get to have more ease, more fun, and more you in your life!
Your Pretend Self: Who you pretend to be
Your pretend self is the image you project into the world. Often, this image is based on your fears and how afraid you are. What and who do you pretend to be in front of others? Take a moment and write down your pretend self traits.
Your Negative Self-image: Who you are afraid you are
If someone calls you a name that you don't identify with it, there is rarely an emotional charge attached. If something upsets us, it's usually because at some level we believe it might be true. For Example: If someone calls you ugly or stupid and it gives you an emotional charge, you may consciously or unconsciously believe this to be true. Take an honest look at yourself, Any "negative" traits you identify are not really yours—they belong to your negative self-image and were programmed into you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go!
Your Authentic Self: Who you truly are
By identifying the traits and characteristics of your three selves, you are freeing yourself up to live more and more from the heart of who you really are—your powerful, loving, unstoppable authentic self. Who you really are always feels good. I'd like you to ask yourself the following questions.
- Who are you when nobody's watching?
- If you felt totally safe, what would you do differently?
- Who would you be if you lived beyond fear?
Do you want to Reprogram your self image?
Just saying affirmations and doing work at the conscious level doesn't always work. The fact is that your body responds far more readily to the vivid use of imagination than to a simple command. IF you would like to know how to reprogram yourself in just minutes a day, contact me for a free 20 min session where I will walk you through the process! With small shifts, you can create big results!
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Lynn is a highly trained and Board Certified Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy®, Hypnotherapy, and Coaching which are some of the most powerful tools for personal and professional development today. Lynn can assist you to make positive shifts, create new healthy habits, move past obstacles, and release unwanted emotions that are holding you back from being your best self!
Are you living from your Authentic Self? Or is your pretend self and negative self getting in the way?
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